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Hey Jode Lately: March 2018

Hey Jode Lately: March 2018

HI friends! 

How's everyone's week going so far? Mine is good. So happy Spring Break is over and the kids are finally back in school again! The break kind of threw us all for a loop and my kids were defintely ready to get back into a routine again. Me too!

I started this series last month and got a pretty positive response from it, so I figured I'd do another and see what y'all think. I'm going to do a little different format this month until I really nail down how I want to do these series, but today I'm basically going to talk to you about three thoughts that have been #onmymind lately!

These three thoughts have been on my mind lately and I want you to allow yourself examine these areas of your life. My goal is to hopefully provoke conversations about these topics and let you know that you are not alone in these thoughts! Basically, I want them to BENEFIT YOU. 

My whole goal when I started this blog (BTW...I'm coming up on my one-year mark...eek!) was to help yall out any way I can, and to inspire you to be the best version of yourself. So please comment and let me know if you love or hate this post, lol. You won't hurt my feelings; I promise.

So let's get thinking...huh?!

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THOUGHT #1: THE POWER OF SAYING NO...

I've touched on this a tad on my Instagram Stories (follow along with me here) and it's something I've admitted I need to work on. I am totaly guilty of saying "yes" and committing to things just to make others feel better, and while that is not necessarily a bad quality to have (it shows that I value peoples feelings), it takes time away from things I actually enjoy doing as well as time away from my family. It also creates this constant feeling of being overwhelmed and busy when maybe if I just would have said no, I wouldn't be "rushing everywhere" to get it all done. I had to recently say no to a couple get-togethers because I just really felt like I needed to spend time with my family at that time. 

At first, I said yes to them, and then the closer they got...I had to be honest with myself and say "Nope, spending time with my family right now is much more important to me and this is what I need right now." Sometimes we have to have these conversations with ourselves. And it's not to say that I wouldn't have had fun at these events...I'm 100% sure I would have! But sometimes we have to be selfish and put our own feelings and priorities ahead of others.

My friend put it best and she made me realize that it's OKAY to say no. She first made me realize WHY I was always saying yes, and that was because I wanted to make others happy, which is fine to do, but when it's not joyful, why do it? When you feel like it's taking all you have and nothing is joyful, why are you really doing it? You're putting other people's happiness over your own. And that means that you're not as happy as you could be.

She helped me understand that saying no is OKAY. People will understand when you do, because everyone is busy with their own lives as well. Another thing she told me that really stuck is: Once you learn the power of saying no...you're actually doing the things that you want to do! Pretty empowering. Thanks to my friend Ashley for helping me realize this! What are yall's thoughts on this? Do you struggle with saying no like I do?

THOUGHT #2: STOP MOM-JUDGING ME...

Ugh. Isn't mom-judging the worst? Like, I can literally feel it happening when it's happening (to me) and it just makes me feel inadequate, guilty and downright awful about myself. So, can this just stop once and for all? Please? 

Let me just start by saying before I had kids, I thought I was going to do it all right and I would never be the one who opens the package of Oreos just because my kids are throwing a tantrum in the grocery store. Well, guess what? I'm that mom now. lol.

As they say....You don't know what you don't know. It turns out parenting is no walk in the park. And sometimes, you do what you gotta do to make it a little bit easier on yourself. 

I am totally that mom who buys the juice in the checkout line just to avoid a meltdown... ummm go ahead and judge me, lol,

Do I probably get judged for this? Yes.

Do I care? No.

Does it bother me a little? Yes.

I think it's best to understand that all of us moms are just trying to do the best we can, with what we have, at that moment. We don't know what anyone has been through or walked in their shoes, so who are we to judge? Us moms, we should be a tribe. A community. A village. Let's just accept our differences and MOVE ON! 

I love to see the looks on moms faces when I tell them my kids have no bedtime. That's great that yours goes to bed at 7:30 every single night. I respect that. But don't judge what works for me and my family.

I also feed them Pop-Tarts for breakfast on occasion. And by on occasion, I mean at least three times a week. Are you judging yet? LOL.

Also...Every bit of food that I feed them is NOT organic (gasp!)

One more thing...They don't always sleep in their pajamas every night. They sometimes sleep in what they wore to school that day. Awful, right?!?!?

But you know what? They're loved and they know that. 

Find what works for you guys and own it. 

I hope you sensed my sarcasm. Let's just stop with the mom-judging. It doesn't get us anywhere and it certainly doesn't make anyone feel better about themselves. How about as moms, we ask each other about goals, where we see ourselves in five years or encourage and compliment one another? Let's see where that conversation goes! 

Enough with the judging, mmkay?

If you're a mom (or not!) have you ever "felt" yourself being judged?

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THOUGHT #3: FIND WHAT YOU'RE GOOD AT. AND DO THAT.

Let me repeat that.

Find what you're good at. And do that.

I'm still trying to find what I'm good at. It's okay if you are still searching too! This takes a little bit of getting to know yourself, and that's okay! But if you at least think about it, you'll be more likely to start paying attention to what it is you're best at!

If you don't know what your special skillset is, ask your close friends or family what they think. They're usually the best people to ask when you're unsure!

Use your talents and skills to make this world a better place...

...or use them to make money.

...or use them to brighten someone's day.

...or use them because you simply enjoy doing it.

Use them because it makes you feel happy and complete.

Whatever it is that you're looking to do in this world, use your talents and skills to get out there and do it! 

I promise you were brought into this world to make a difference somehow.

Find what you're good at. And do that.

I've been told I'm good at  "making others feel good" just by talking to them. My neighbor thinks I should be a motivational speaker, ha! I dunno about that, but I do try to make my blog + social media a positive space. I do this by responding back to DM's + comments with genuine answers.

I also use this skill in my job as a nurse with my coworkers and patients as well.

I love to give others compliments and motivate them! I recently took a quiz and found out I was a good "supporter." One of my strong personality traits is supporting others. Cool, right? I've never considered it a gift until I realized not all people naturally do this. 

What's your one or two things that you're good at? Are you doing something with the special skillset of yours?

That's it for today guys! How'd you like today's post? I hope I encouraged you to think about some things and got your wheels turning? I hope you walk away from today's post feeling refreshed and inspired. Let me know your thoughts below on ANY part of this article by commenting below!

Have a great rest of the week!

xoxo, jodi

 

 

 

 

 

 

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